Let’s be real: getting the whole crew dressed, out the door on time, and in front of a camera can feel like a full-blown Olympic event—especially when there are little kids involved. But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be that way! In fact, with the right family photographer and with the right photoshoot prep, your session can actually be FUN—for everyone. Yes, even your wild toddlers – especially your wild toddlers.
The Blackbird Flies Photography focuses on capturing the messy, beautiful, joy-filled magic of families just as they are. And after photographing many (and I mean MANY) kids/toddlers, I’ve picked up a few tips along the way that can help your little ones feel relaxed, happy, and even excited about being in front of the camera. Here’s how to prep your kids so the session flows smoothly—and we can capture the kind of moments you’ll treasure forever.
Start hyping it up before the session day
The most effective photoshoot prep for kids/toddlers starts with the overall vibe you put in place. Talk about the session as if it’s something special to look forward to (hopefully this comes authentically). Instead of saying “We’re getting pictures taken,” you might say something like, “We’re going on an adventure, and someone’s going to take fun pictures of us being silly and happy together!”
Let them in on the excitement. If they get to help pick out an accessory or decide what toy to bring along, it gives them a sense of control—and kids thrive when they feel involved. When they see it as their photoshoot too, they’re more likely to show up with that spark of joy we love to capture.
[ little girl is holding a stick, her stuffy, and a leaf – this is childhood ]
Plan the session around your child’s happiest hours
One of the simplest but most important parts of kids’ photoshoot prep? Timing. You know your child best. If they tend to get cranky before nap time or melt down when they’re hungry, let’s avoid those windows. We’ll schedule the session during a time when they’re usually feeling good—rested, fed, and ready to play. I will always recommend Golden Hour (the hour before sunset), and lots of moms are pleasantly surprised by how well their toddler does (because we are just having a good time usually at a new place), but even still – you make the final call mama.
Try to keep the day of your session light and low-key. Kids pick up on our energy, so if you’re rushing around and running late, they’ll feel that stress too. A slow morning, a good breakfast, and some calm playtime beforehand can set the tone for a relaxed shoot.
Choose outfits that feel good (not just look good)
Yes, we want everyone to look great—but if your little one is itchy, cold, or restricted in their outfit, it will show. Comfort is a huge part of a successful photoshoot with toddlers. Choose clothes that are soft, flexible, and allow your child to move freely. If you think they may be a little chilly, then remember a sweater or jacket. And if you can, let them try it on before the day of the shoot to make sure it fits well, they’re comfy and have little complaints.
Do we have a strong-willed little girl maybe? Let them help pick between a couple of outfit options—it gives them a say, and if they love what they’re wearing, it’ll show in their body language and expressions. Pro tip: leave their shirt off for the car ride. Better to be prepared and keep the vibe chill.
Make sure everyone’s bellies and hearts are full
A big piece of kids’ photoshoot prep that often gets overlooked? Snacks. Feed them a solid meal before the shoot and bring easy, non-messy snacks with you—something like pretzels, fruit snacks, or small marshmallows. Hydration is important too, especially if we’re shooting outdoors in the heat.
And if your kiddo has a favorite comfort item, bring that along as well. A well-timed snuggle with their favorite blankie or stuffed animal can help reset the mood and offer some adorable photo ops in the process. I have tricks up my sleeve for when it’s time for ‘teddy’ to make an exit.
Bring the fun! *this is not school picture day
The best way to encourage your toddlers to be confident and authentic is playing. We’re not aiming for stiff poses or forced smiles. I’ll guide you through games, prompts, and interactions that feel fun and natural to your kids. This could mean a round of ring-around-the-rosy, a game of tag, or just a tickle fight in the middle of a field.
Bring a few small toys or props that make your child light up. I also love using bubbles, music, or even a quick dance party to shift the mood if needed. We’re creating moments, not just capturing them—and when your kids are having fun, their joy becomes completely effortless and genuine.
Positive Reinforcement: Use Rewards Wisely
A big part of thoughtful kids’ photoshoot prep is knowing what motivates your child without making the experience feel transactional. Small rewards—like promising a playground visit or an ice cream stop after the session—can help keep them focused and excited. Just make sure you frame it positively: “We’re going to have so much fun, and afterward we’ll celebrate with something special!”
Some parents like to bring a surprise treat or sticker for the end of the shoot. That’s great! Just avoid using treats during the session unless absolutely necessary, since it can interrupt the flow or become a distraction (especially for toddlers).
Trust the process (even when it feels chaotic)
Even with the best kids photoshoot prep, children are still… kids. They might run in the opposite direction, make silly faces, or suddenly get camera shy. And that’s okay. I always build space for flexibility, breaks, and go-with-the-flow moments. Some of the best photos come from these little detours.
Instead of focusing on getting the “perfect” picture, focus on being present with your child. Laugh, cuddle, play. These are the moments that matter most—and when you’re relaxed, they will be too. I’ll worry about the light, the angles, and the timing. You just bring the love.
Share the inside scoop with your photographer
Want to level up your kids photoshoot prep even more? Send me a quick note before your session with anything you think would help. Does your child warm up slowly to new people? Do they love dinosaurs, hate loud sounds, or have a favorite song that makes them light up? I want to know it all.
The more I understand your family dynamic, the better I can tailor the session to match your child’s comfort level and personality. This is a team effort, and I’m here to make it feel easy, fun, and full of heart.
Celebrate afterwards (even if you’re a little sweaty and grass-stained)
After the shoot, take a deep breath and take a minute to celebrate. Let your kids know how proud you are of them, and reflect on the fun parts together. Sure, maybe not all parts went smoothly, but we are going to focus on the positive moments. The more they associate photoshoots with joy and connection, the easier it’ll be next time.
When your gallery hits your inbox, make it a special event. Sit down as a family, scroll through them together, and relive the laughter and love. These aren’t just pictures—they’re little windows into who your family is in this season of life. And if you’re anything like me, you will want to cherish this season of life forever.
[ we don’t need toys – we have nature! take a look around and explore! ]
Final Thoughts
Kids’ photoshoot prep doesn’t have to be complicated. It’s really about creating space for your kids to feel seen, loved, and free to be themselves. Look at this as more than photographs—it’s a full hour to spend undistracted in the present with your most precious loved one.
Prepping your kids for a photoshoot isn’t about chasing perfection—it’s about setting them (and yourself) up for a relaxed, joy-filled experience. With a little planning, a lot of patience, and the freedom to be yourselves, you’ll walk away with more than just beautiful photos. You’ll have real memories of giggles, hugs, and love that shines through in every frame. Want to here more tips? Check me out on Instagram!
The Blackbird Flies Photography (me – Jessica Artice) is not here for stiff poses or forced smiles; I’m here for the magic of real authentic moments. So come as you are, let your kids be their true wild selves, and let’s create something beautiful together.
